This topic today is a conversation that should be discussed, but often isn’t. Is Jealousy Becoming a Dealbreaker in Your Relationship?
We often become jealous within our partnership when something has shifted in our personal connection, and we’re not getting our needs met. When you don’t feel seen or heard by your partner, it causes jealous insecurities to surface. The bond you share feels broken. If it’s left to fester, this problem may eventually become a dealbreaker in your relationship.
Jealousy can come into play when a partnership becomes complacent. Unfortunately, some people become apathetic and put romance on the back burner. If your partner stops putting energy into nurturing intimacy and love, you may feel insecure. You worry they are losing their attraction toward you.
Relationships go through many stages over the years.
You want your partnership to stay in a stable and healthy place. To achieve this, communicate your feelings consistently. Couples lose their way when they don’t focus on the importance of sharing their thoughts regularly. Don’t shut your partner out, always talk to them about everything.
Most problems can be solved quickly. You need to open up to each other. Otherwise, those small things can escalate into much bigger issues! Your partner may notice subtle changes in your body language or moods. Still, they can’t read your mind. They don’t know what you are internalizing. You owe it to each other to express your feelings. This way, your partner stays informed. They won’t have to analyze what is disrupting your relationship.
Life has many ups and downs, and we don’t always feel happy with where we are emotionally, mentally, spiritually, or physically. We change every 7 years and that can be a hard thing to deal with. It doesn’t just affect the replacement of cells in our bodies, it affects our lives in many aspects!
Jealousy is often an insecurity that you feel when you are dealing with difficult personal changes.
- You are not enjoying your job.
- Your health is compromised.
- You don’t feel attractive due to weight gain or a big birthday milestone approaching.
- It could be due to hormonal changes. This causes your emotions to feel out of control, which can also mess with your mindset.
What are Some of the Jealous Emotions You May be Dealing With:
- Insecurity – You are not feeling worthy in your partnership due to where your life is at the time.
- Fear – You have feelings that your relationship isn’t going to last.
- Suspicious – The trust has altered within your partnership. When you stop trusting your partner, it is not always an easy road to come back from. Something changed to make you feel insecure about the bond you share with them.
- Resentment – They are dealing with their life much better than how you are handling your own. Things are happening for them and you feel unbalanced as a couple.
- Anger – This is a built-up emotion in your relationship that is caused by ignoring the big picture. What has changed to make you feel jealous? You need to communicate this to your partner.
- Envy – Things just seem to fall into place for your partner, while you feel left behind. They seem to attract and manifest everything they want towards them, which makes you feel anxious.
- Reactive – You become very defensive towards them due to whatever is making you jealous of your partner. You lash out with sarcastic comments or criticism. You want to knock them down a little from their happy life pedestal.
Don’t let jealousy ruin your relationship!
Nothing good ever comes from being a jealous person. Something is making you feel unsettled. When jealousy arises in your relationship, it is time to understand the reason behind it. You should always be capable of discussing your fears or any changes that you notice, with your partner. Hoping these feelings will just subside on their own, will cause you to stay in this prolonged jealous state of mind. As a couple, you need to get to the bottom of what transpired to bring out these new feelings.
How do you prevent jealousy from happening in your relationship?
- Communicate any feelings of jealousy or emotional conflict when it transpires. Do not bury your thoughts and hope they will go away on their own.
- Listen to each other and respect any concerns you both have.
- Keep a journal of each time that you feel any jealousy toward your partner. This will help you understand what triggers these emotions. Share this with your partner to give them a clear understanding as well.
- Include each other in any new goals or adventures. You may not always evolve in life at the same time. Always include them so they feel a part of everything.
- Prioritize each other regularly. They should be #1 in your partnership!
Understanding where your insecurities are coming from is the first step to repairing jealousy within your relationship. Decipher whether this is a new scenario, or whether you have always had jealous tendencies. You could be holding on to trust issues or infidelity from a past relationship that is keeping you stuck. This can often carry over into other partnerships if you have not dealt with it properly.
Ensure you have proper boundaries in place. Do not repeat a pattern by choosing partners that are similar and causing you to feel jealous. You must address this issue with professional counseling. Otherwise, it can continue to cause disturbances in your future relationships. When you notice negative repetition in your relationship, you are not respecting healthy boundaries. You are also not implementing them in the way you should be.
Consistent jealousy eventually sabotages the love you once shared as a couple.
Naturally, a little jealousy will pop up in any partnership, but as long as you can talk about it as a couple, it can be managed quickly. Your partner may be more outgoing than you are, which can bring out a few insecurities. Confidence is everything, so having goals and life purpose will give you that. When you are comfortable with who you are and happy in your life, jealousy is seldom a problem.
Pay attention to what is happening in your life. Also, notice what isn’t transpiring when jealousy threatens your relationship. Communicate any issues promptly and find a way to console each other’s concerns. Please don’t shrug it off as unimportant. Their feelings need to be validated, and they need to feel heard. They may be going through a vulnerable time. If you are there for each other in a reciprocated manner, you will always stay closely connected.
Have you had a jealous partner or dealt with your own jealousies? How did you get past it? Please leave your comments below.
Thank you!
Sybersue xo <3
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