If you’ve been living with your partner for the past few years and you both feel like now is the right time to cement your relationship, you might feel like you have no choice but to get married. It’s the next step!
When you return home to your parents to tell them that you’re getting married to the one person that you love most on the planet, something might not feel quite right when you actually say it out loud.
You may not want a big church wedding, walking down the aisle with numerous pairs of eyes on you, a lavish affair or a full-blown sit-down reception. Regardless of what your wedding plans may entail, your parents might be pleased to see you settling down!
Is a wedding the only way to show your commitment to your one and only? Take a look at how a wedding could fit into your life plan while at the same time showing some of the alternatives.
Some people simply hate the idea of having to plan every minute detail of this special day that they should be enjoying. Weddings don’t have to be like an army drill; they can be relaxed and laid-back affairs.
To make things less stressful you could surrender all of the planning to a professional who can take care of everything and the finer details. You could let them know of any color scheme that you might desire, the sort of transport you might like and what type of venue you’d like to share your vows in.
If you decide that you want to relinquish most of the organizing and responsibility simply tell the wedding planner your budget and let them get on with organizing your big day!
A wedding doesn’t have to consist of the formal sit down wedding breakfast complete with four food courses, an amuse bouche and champagne. This might not fit in with your ethos or personality at all.
You might prefer a meal at your favorite haunt, a takeaway from the restaurant where you had your first date, a casual party with family and friends at home, or you might be happier with a buffet or a dinner creation cooked by your own fair hands.
Not everyone is into the formal concept of a wedding and they want to celebrate their commitment but not in a way that makes them legally bound.
Instead you could throw a commitment party or a unity ceremony. You can still say your vows to one another and it can look to all intents and purposes like a wedding but it won’t be under the eyes of the law and you can still have whatever catering you feel like afterwards.
When it comes to the wedding reception this is a great excuse to have a party, regardless of the how traditional or non-traditional your venue is. You and your partner want to celebrate your love!
You could opt for a disco or DJ style, hire the services of a tribute band who plays only the finest soul or soft rock classics or you could whip out your iPod and go DIY with your own music choice of entertainment.
The excellent thing about a wedding soiree is that everything is planned with love and comes from the heart. Making and designing things yourself adds a very personal touch.
You could even make your own DIY wedding invitations; you don’t necessarrily need a printing firm to create the invites to your nuptials. You want them to be personal, meaningful and anything but generic, so add your own design ideas and personalize it to show who you are as a couple.
The notion that your wedding reception has to be in a hotel or function room post-church ceremony is super traditional and doesn’t reflect everyone’s modern values. Some people are not religious and choose to forego this type of ritual and choose the casualness of getting married in a civil ceremony.
If you feel uncomfortable making vows in the eyes of God, then you can both choose not to do so. This is your special day so you and your partner should be able to decide the way in which you celebrate your commitment to each other.
Keeping It In The Family
It can be hard to break the family tradition and opt for an alternative celebration if your mother has been aching to see you get formally married since you were a newborn. Parents all want the best for their children but it isn’t always a mutual desire for everyone involved. You have to do what’s right for you and your partner.
Explain to your family why you won’t be having a traditional wedding and why you are opting for an alternative event. Once they see just how committed you are to your soulmate and how much you love each other, they will be happy to share your special day whatever form it takes.
Susan McCord @ The Dear Sybersue Talk Show