I am Secretly Seeing My Best Friend’s Ex Husband! What should I do?

I am Secretly Seeing My Best Friend’s Ex Husband! What should I do?

In the video above Dear Sybersue answers a question from a woman on her advice column who is secretly seeing her best friends Ex husband! She wants to know what she should do and how she should handle it!

It’s maybe a bit late to feel guilty about it now don’t you think???

Loyalty makes or breaks a friendship or relationship. When someone feels betrayed it is very difficult to win back their trust! Why should they trust you when you made a choice that was so disrespectful them?

True friends are very difficult to find these days so you better make sure that when you decide to go behind their back or play both sides of the fence, that you are OK to lose them forever.

Yes; I know there are times when the heart just can’t help falling in love with someone who is taboo for us but you can still try damn hard to walk away and not allow it to happen.

The last thing you should do is secretly hide this romance from your best friend who it will obviously deeply hurt. Don’t be a coward.

This happens way too often and makes the heartbreak even harder to get over. It’s now a double edged sword for your best friend who has lost her husband & the friendship she had with you. It will also change her friendships with others who decide to hang out with you & her Ex!

You have to ask yourself if this is really what you want for the long haul. Will you ever feel OK about hurting your best friend and all the drama that will follow you afterward? Is it worth it?

Is the EX husband really serious about you or are you just a rebound scenario that he will tire of when the excitement of the “forbidden fruit” infatuation” wears off? Did you just happen to be at the wrong place at the wrong time or is this a real love that neither of you can live without?

Whatever the case, there needs to be respect shown towards your friend. She should not be the last to know and it should be discussed sooner than later. Do not let things go on for months without letting her know and keep hanging out with her as if nothing has changed!

There is a small chance that if she is over her ex husband and her heart has moved on, she may be able to deal with this situation. Give her the courtesy of telling her the truth and you just never know. At the very least she won’t feel quite as betrayed if she finds out before it becomes neighborhood or Facebook gossip.

Susan McCord @ The Dear Sybersue Talk Show

Add This Little Trick to Keep Your Relationship in a Happy Place!

Add This Little Trick to Keep Your Relationship in a Happy Place!

Dear Sybersue answers this popular topic from her advice column!

“What is the key to keeping a relationship from becoming boring and routine!”

It is much easier than many couples realize! You don’t have to become another divorce statistic if this a part of your weekly practice! Not only will it change up the dynamics of your partnership, you will have fun at the same time!

Keep your partner wanting more by being MORE of who you are!

Susan McCord @ facebook.com/dearsybersue 
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Blogs & Advice Column @ sybersue.com

Are you Choosing Unhealthy Relationships due to Your Childhood Issues?

In today’s video above Dear Sybersue discusses relationship patterns that may need changing due to unhealthy childhood memories.

  • Is there always a lot of drama or repetition in your partnerships or dating scenarios??
  • Does your partner remind you of things in your past that were hurtful, abusive or sad within your family?
  • Are there characteristics in your partner that remind you of either of your parents? Are they overly controlling, possessive or emotionally unavailable?

People tend to be creatures of habit and wander towards familiar environments which aren’t necessarily a safe or happy place to be.

Break ups happen because that person wasn’t right for you. You are meant to learn from the demise of it and move on to a more fulfilling partnership. But…unfortunately many people repeat the same mistakes and go back for more of the same thing because it is what they know!

Staying in these type of situations is one of the biggest reasons many men & women spend so much time dealing with low self esteem and self doubt in all aspects of their lives.

Your partner is supposed to be an extension of the incredible person that you are; not take away from who you are.

If you are constantly putting yourself in these hot & cold, loveless relationships because this is familiar to you from your past family life, you may need to talk to a counselor or  therapist to help you through this repetitive cycle.

Sometimes you just can’t do it alone and it is a strength to be able to admit this to yourself. ❤

Once you analyze & start to understand why you make certain relationship choices, it is much easier to find real love and end up on a happier path. Childhood drama in ingrained in our hearts, body and soul; it is not an easy thing to erase overnight and asking for help to make these changes is a good thing.

Susan McCord @ facebook/dearsybersue
Dear Sybersue @ youtube/dearsybersue
Blogs& Advice Column @ sybersue.com