In today’s weekly video above Dear Sybersue discusses: How Do I Get My Partner to Have My Back in Our Relationship?
I have had a fair amount of men and women asking me this question over the last few months! This bothers me a lot! Why is this even an issue?
Why doesn’t your partner defend you? Shouldn’t you always be there for each other when you are confronted or verbally/physically attacked by someone?
I don’t know about you but when someone berates or slanders a person I love, I am like mama bear protecting her cubs! I am all over that shit with bear claws a-blazin!
It is a natural reaction to stand up for someone you are in a committed partnership with…isn’t it?
Well maybe not if your partner is insecure or jealous of you. Or maybe they just don’t have a backbone and don’t want to deal with any confrontation! “It will just go away if I don’t draw more attention to it, pretend I didn’t see or hear anything. They can handle it.”
The only way to teach someone how to behave is to confront their actions at the time it happens. Don’t let it build up so that it gets worse over time. You’re in a partnership for a reason, don’t make them have to deal with everything on their own.
It is not easy to always have to stand up for yourself and when someone has your back you feel validated and honored by their love. ❤
You need to get to the bottom of why they aren’t there for you because eventually it will be the demise of your partnership! Why would you stay with someone who doesn’t respect you enough to stand up for you.
Is there ever a good excuse as to why?
Please leave your comments below so we can help other men and women deal with this scenario in their relationships.
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