Today on Dear Sybersue I discuss the topic: If You Want to Date More, Take Off Your Headphones.
Many men and women are complaining that they never meet anyone and how difficult dating has become today. One major reason for this is that people are so plugged into their smartphones. They seldom look up at what is going on around them. There is so little face-to-face interaction or human connection these days.
Everyone is walking with their heads down staring at their phones and not looking up until they literally bump into someone. They are not paying attention to their surroundings. I have seen people almost get hit by cars while they are walking and texting on their phones. And don’t even get me started on people who text while they drive!
Many companies are now adopting a no-phone policy in their meetings, which is a great thing! It forces everyone to pay attention and make eye contact with whoever is speaking. It is important to feel heard and have reciprocated boundaries within your job environment. You also want to be respected and feel valued when it comes to your viewpoint and your contributions as a team player.
I can’t even imagine how hard it must be for teachers in the classrooms.
To be fair, these kids have grown up with a cell phone attached to their thumbs. They really don’t know anything else. They do not feel that there is anything wrong with regularly checking their social media. The bigger problem here, of course, is that it can impede our children from learning to their full potential. It also affects their understanding of the importance of socially interacting with others.
This can keep them from contributing in a social setting, and it certainly doesn’t add anything to enhance their self-esteem. If they don’t engage in conversations with others, how do they learn to be interactive and confident throughout their lifetime? It is one thing to be active on social media, but it is another thing to feel awkward and intimidated when communicating in a social setting.
“Your eyes are the window to your soul.” Looking into someone’s eyes can tell you so much about them.
You miss out on meeting interesting people if you always look down at your phone. The same happens if you are wired into your earbuds. I love my phone just as much as the next person does. However, I know when to put it away and acknowledge my surroundings.
Spending an evening with friends should consist of laughter and great conversations. Taking 30 minutes to post photos of your meal isn’t proper etiquette. It can give you a reputation that you might not like to acquire.
Many men and women are tired of online dating.
They have given up on their pursuit of finding love in this manner. It’s definitely not for everyone and can become very time-consuming. If you want to eventually meet your life partner organically, you should be socializing often.
Take your headphones off, put down your phone, and talk to people when you are out! Practicing this regularly reduces feelings of nervousness. This helps when talking to someone you may be interested in at a later date. The more you practice conversing with others, the more comfortable you will become.
Make eye contact and smile.
You don’t have to date everyone you say hello to, but get in the habit of being friendly with people you come across. Whether it is at a coffee shop, your local gym or just passing by someone on the street, acknowledging their presence with a smile, is a great opener to a conversation. You will be very surprised at the results! When someone says hi, and acknowledges you, does it not make you feel noticed?
Many people are starting to feel invisible and lonely. Our anti-social behavior has led to this situation. All you have to do is take public transport one day and look around. 85% of the people are plugged into some device, completely ignorant of their environment. Even just looking out the window at what is transpiring outside, is a better approach to staying somewhat connected.
Don’t let life pass you by because you are too plugged in!
There are so many wonderful opportunities that are available to you every day. Be present and embrace your surroundings. Are you guilty of being plugged in on your phone all the time, even when you’re out with friends for the evening? Are social media sites like Instagram or Facebook an addiction for you?
If this is sounding a little bit like you, it’s time to alter this isolating behavior. Life is so much better when interacting with others, and enjoying social ambiance. The world is a beautiful place and should always be appreciated.
I would love to hear your thoughts on this topic. I will always take time to answer you back. Please watch the video above and leave your comments below! Thank you.
Sybersue xo <3
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