Why Does My Partner Continually Walk Away During Our Disagreements?

Today’s topic affects many relationships. Why Does My Partner Continually Walk Away During Our Disagreements?

What boundaries should be set when your partner leaves the room during an argument?

There are many ways to handle disagreements. Both people need to agree to repair things, so they can build a stronger partnership throughout their years together. It is important to learn from your mistakes, as opposed to ignoring them or repeating them.

• The first thing a couple should focus on is learning how to listen to each other. They should also respect one another’s viewpoint.
• Take turns evaluating the concerns happening in your relationship. Then, offer a communicated strategy to improve the situation.
• Be open to hearing what your partner has to say and vice versa. There shouldn’t be interruptions during those important times. Both of you want to be heard. You want your feelings validated without criticism.
• You should both be open and willing to rectify an argumentative scenario. You understand that it is not okay to leave things unsaid in your partnership. You know moving forward as a couple is hard when you do not resolve conflicts. Reaching a healthy place together requires resolution.

Sometimes what your partner doesn’t say speaks volumes!

1. When your partner shuts down in this manner, it might indicate ongoing insecurities. They may not want to own or deal with these insecurities.
2. There could be trust issues within themselves. They worry they won’t say the right thing. So they feel it’s best not to say anything!
3. Your partner chooses to avoid any negative interaction. They fear being ridiculed. They also fear having their feelings rejected by what may be said during the argument.
4. It could also mean they want to avoid any conflict. They view it as unnecessary drama!
5. They are somewhat emotionally unavailable and do not have the proper tools to help them handle the problem.

A relationship will always go through difficult stages. Therefore, resolving conflict is a critical communication skill.

Every couple needs to learn this skill. It is always important to honour your partner’s worries. Their feelings are just as valid as yours but you don’t always have to agree with them. This is where compromise comes into play in every partnership.

It is also wise to pick your battles if there are continuous arguments. Your partner may shut down. They might feel that nothing they say will prevent another argument.

You both need to feel heard in your relationship. You also need to listen to each other’s viewpoint. Do this without a defensive reaction.

If the argument is too deep-rooted to fix as a couple, consider involving a couple’s counsellor.

A professional can offer you the tools to help find a solution or compromise for the problem at hand. Many mistakes are made when communication between a couple is lacking, or it is put on the back burner. If you feel ignored by your partner, you might lash out in frustration. Alternatively, you may pull back. This causes a mistrust that can be hard to repair.

Talking to a professional in a relationship conflict can decrease the number of disagreements in your partnership. It can also prevent them from occurring at all. You learn how to de-escalate a problem instantly before it arises.

Couples need to interact as a team during a disagreement. The issue should be resolved when it occurs. Getting to the bottom of what created the disagreement should be discussed at the time it transpired. If things are left unsaid, the same argument may be ongoing throughout your relationship.

Having some of those tough conversations early can prevent repetitive situations because they’re not being ignored. You are both dealing with them together at the time they happen! You are on the same page and care enough to make things right between you!

Some people are triggered very quickly during an argument because they view it as a personal attack.

This is a big reason why there needs to be diplomacy in the delivery of your message. Be very careful that you’re not talking “AT” them. If you take this harsh approach, they will feel there’s no point in responding. This is because you’ve already got your mind made up about where the argument is going.

Ask your partner to repeat back what they heard you say. Quite often we hear something different from what is being relayed to us. You may also have to work on how you verbalize your message as well. This exercise can help you both communicate maturely with each other when you understand the importance of this.

Continually walking away from an argument can give the impression that you don’t care about their opinions. It is blatantly dismissive and not a communicative approach to respecting your committed partnership.

We all have different communication styles.

Some people need some time to process what’s going on within an argument. They require a few minutes to think about it. If this is you, do not walk away from your partner abruptly. Instead, gently tell them you need a few minutes to collect your thoughts. Assure them you will be back to continue the discussion. This way you are respecting your partner by communicating this and not just turning your back on them.

It’s a good idea to talk to your partner about things that need addressing. Please don’t ignore them. Do this when you’re not in the heat of an argument. Choose a comfortable setting when you’re out for a walk, or having a cup of coffee together. Writing things down is a wonderful practice. Let your partner read what you have to say. This approach helps if you have trouble communicating your feelings regularly.

Some people are better communicators using the written word. We’re not all built the same way, and this also needs to be understood. Always use a gentle approach. Take time to hear your partner’s comments without judgment. This will continually keep you in a reciprocated communicative place as a couple.

Thank you, Sybersue xo 

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