Are you trying to get over your Ex but secretly still missing them while you are in another relationship?
A big reason why you still miss your ex when you’re in a new relationship is getting involved too soon after a breakup. This can be a big mistake. Your heart is not ready to love again. It’s still holding on to memories of your past partner. You may not have had proper closure with your Ex. As your new relationship progresses, thoughts of them start popping up all over the place.
When your past continually haunts your present situation, you are not emotionally available to your new partner.
They will eventually notice your lack of undivided attention. This absence will start a repetitive problem, especially during intimate moments. Your new partner will feel your resistance to fully engage romantically with them.
It is very important to understand the attachment that you have to your last relationship. This is why it is crucial to always take time to heal from any breakup. Doing so can help you get the proper closure. Don’t let pride get in the way of achieving this.
What should you do if you can’t stop thinking about your Ex?
Contact your Ex and ask if you can see them for a coffee. You could also suggest making a phone call or a text if they aren’t comfortable seeing you. Do not sneak around behind your partner’s back. Be honest and let them know you’re having trouble giving 100% to this relationship. You have things holding you back that you haven’t dealt with properly.
It is not an ideal scenario for your partner to endure. However, understanding what keeps you stuck is of great consequence. You need to comprehend why you are not capable of giving yourself fully in your new relationship. These issues must be resolved first. Only then can your heart be repaired, allowing you to navigate forward on a new path.
It’s not your new partner’s job to fix the problem. They should not have to take a backseat to any feelings you still have toward your Ex. Be prepared that they could choose to walk away. They will think you’re not emotionally available to be in a relationship at this time. This is a chance you will have to take, but at least you’re being honest with them. They deserve that.
Sitting down to openly communicate with your Ex can be helpful. After some time apart, this can provide clarity about why you’re no longer together as a couple. Sometimes your ego gets in the way, especially if your ex broke up with you. This can take a big toll on your self-esteem. No one likes to be dumped in a relationship, even if it wasn’t a great partnership.
There is always a reason why a relationship ended, but we don’t always see it at the time.
Conversing with your Ex can also help confirm that you are both fully over the relationship.
Ensuring there is no unfinished business lingering between you as a couple is necessary when entering into another relationship. Is it them you are missing, or is it the lifestyle you once shared as a couple? You lose much more than your partner during the demise of a relationship. You lose your home, some of your friendships, and time with your children if you share custody.
Your present partner should be informed of where they stand. This is not a comfortable conversation to have in a new relationship. However, it’s important to do so before any more time goes by. If your heart is being pulled in a different direction, it’s not fair to keep your new partner on hold. You should not keep them waiting while you’re figuring things out. They are invested in you at this stage and are under the assumption that you feel the same way.
You honestly feel that you are truly over your ex. However, you’re not able to emotionally connect with your new partner.
This is not something to ignore. It’s not healthy to bring someone else into your life with ongoing emotional baggage. You must be ready to be in a relationship. Your emotional well-being gets crushed during a breakup, and you need to have time to learn how to trust again.
Unfortunately, you may have to end your current relationship if this continues to keep you stuck. If you are feeling numb or pulled back, it isn’t fair to your partner. Love needs to be nurtured with both people contributing to the partnership.
Take some time to identify what it is you’re looking for moving forward in your life. Jumping in quickly after a breakup does not allow your heart or your mind to process what transpired. Only time and honest self-evaluation will do that. If you and your new partner have something special, you will find a way to build on your partnership. You will gain a newfound clarity of the love you share as a couple.
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Such an amazing response. I was facing such an issue months ago but I’m now healing so well but will also give myself some time to emotionally get over it. I’m saving this response to help me better go through the healing process and come out much stronger and ready.
That is excellent to hear! Thank you so much for taking the time to read the post! ❤️