Why Do Some People Say I love You So Fast?
Hi there, thank you for visiting me here at Dear Sybersue. Today I talk about a situation that happens more than you may realize. A lot of people are lonely and hold on tight when they finally meet someone that they are really attracted to. Telling someone you love them after only seeing them a few times comes across as being too aggressive or overly clingy way too fast.
So why do some people do this then?
Many men and women are tired of dating today and all the problems that go with it. It is exhausting dealing with the ghosting, the gaslighting, the catfishing, the breadcrumbing, and general bullshit that online dating has introduced. Social distancing has certainly been a huge culprit in adding to this frustration in 2020.
People get really excited when they finally meet a potential love interest who ticks off most of their checklist boxes so they jump in quickly without giving it a second thought. Unfortunately, these fast attachments don’t often work out because these men and women are blinded by what they think is transpiring.
But it just feels so damn good!
Patience really is a virtue when it comes to love and everyone should take their time in getting to know someone. Whether you believe in love at first sight or not, it is important to hold back sharing your emotions too soon.
It can be a big turn off hearing that someone loves you after 2 dates. How many other people have they said that to? This is a very intimate statement that shouldn’t just be thrown out there. It doesn’t really come off as being very sincere.
Lust and infatuation are most likely the feelings that you are experiencing in these early stages. Be very careful not to confuse them with love. That sex-filled euphoric honeymoon stage has nowhere to go but down when you put love on a pedestal prematurely.
I really suggest not getting involved so quickly that you are seeing them on a daily basis; having some healthy boundaries is important at this time. It gives you more clarity when you are not romantically involved within the first few dates.
Pay close attention to what they say and watch their actions as well
Most people can be pretty well behaved for a few months until reality sets in. It takes time to really get to know someone but this is often ignored. “This time it feels different and we have so much in common. We just clicked right away!” “I’ve never felt like this about anyone so fast!”
This is also one of the main reasons that many relationships don’t make it past the 3-month mark. People don’t have the patience to slow down and enjoy the courtship, so they go in full blast!
I am not saying there is anything wrong with having strong feelings for someone quickly, but the speed of progression needs to be realistic for things to naturally evolve. I have mentioned in many of my videos and posts; “When a relationship is on the right track there aren’t a lot of big questions,” but “when something starts out really fast, it often ends just as fast.”
There is a healthy excitement in a new partnership when you minimize your early expectations and have time to miss each other. Be communicative but also give things time to blossom at a natural pace. It’s definitely worth getting to know someone the old fashioned way. Don’t be in a hurry to rush love into your life because when it is real, it is so worth the wait.
Sybersue xo <3
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