How Does Your Body Language Affect Your Dating Life?

How Does Your Body Language Affect Your Dating Life?


In Dear Sybersue’s weekly Thursday Video Upload she discusses how body language can make or break your dating chances.

Some people are quick to judge so you don’t have much time to make a great first impression. You may not be aware of how you come across to others and it’s a lot better to find out sooner, then to be always wondering why people aren’t gravitating towards  you and why you are not meeting a potential partner.

My own husband sometimes has “resting bitch face” and he tries hard not to look unapproachable when he is thinking about something and lost in his own thoughts. We laugh about it as I know how amazing he really is and it is only certain times that his body language comes across as; “a little removed.”

While this may work in our home, it doesn’t work for people who are just getting to know each other because most people don’t wait around trying to figure out who “you really are.” 

Polite human etiquette is very important in today’s tough world, so if you want to stand out, you might need to be aware of how people initially perceive you and change up some behavioral patterns that aren’t working and why you are still in the “not in a relationship” status.

It’s always a good thing to do a makeover on your attitude. We can all use a little tweeking in that department!

Of course we can become complacent in life sometimes, but people who take time to keep working on themselves will always be in a place of betterment because they get it! They understand that for them to stay interesting and fun to be around, they need to keep making an effort as the years go on.

Being kind and respectful to people you come across on a daily basis is really important on how you conduct yourself with everything you do in life.

Always having an aggressive approach is a turn off and a lasting impression for how people will judge you. Loosen up a little, put others first once in awhile and remember it’s not always just about your feelings and what’s happening your life.

Allow others into your world with encouraging body language and a happy smile on your face. You don’t have to be a part of the anger that is happening in our world today. There is always more room for happiness and you can make a difference to someone else’s life just by being “you.”

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Would you Date “You?” Do You Know How You Come Across to Others?

Would you Date “You?” Do You Know How You Come Across to Others?

In today’s video above Dear Sybersue discusses your dating life and your attitude that goes along with it.

Are you happy with how you come across to others? Do you make a great first impression or are you too rigid or way too picky about who you will date?

It might be time to take a good hard look in the mirror if your dating life sucks.

Ask a trusted friend or a family member how you come across to others.

  1. Are you friendly and open to others when you initially meet them or does it take you numerous meetings before you warm up to people?
  2. Are you shy? Many people claim they are shy but actually appear removed or uninterested.
  3. Do you have a happy persona or is your “resting bitch face” what people see first? (There is a reason that term is hanging around!)
  4. Are you more interested in your phone than the people in the room?
  5. When introduced to someone do you give them a smile and direct eye contact? That first hello is the most important part of any interaction with someone you just met.
  6. Do you like who you are and are you proud of your accomplishments?
  7. Do you regularly use sarcasm as a form of humor?
  8. Do you openly talk about your flaws or insecurities right away, as if getting this “over with” will show your honesty and endear them to you? (Isn’t it more of an optimistic approach to show them your best qualities first?)
  9. Is your checklist long and unreasonable? Would you be OK if someone you met had one just as long or would you think they were high maintenance?
  10. Do you cut yourself down in front of others because you don’t feel you have much to offer?
  11. Are you a good communicator and able to express yourself with your words and your body language?
  12. Are you sure you are ready to date and not holding onto to past relationship drama or scars? Some people sabotage their dating scenarios because of this reason and do not even realize it.

It’s never too late to make changes to be a better person but first you have to understand what needs changing. If things are constantly back-firing from what you are truly looking for, there is a reason.

It’s not because “there isn’t anyone out there to date,” it is because of something happening within “you” that is blocking a potential partner from entering your life.

It might be time to hire a dating coach or counselor to see what is really going on. Self esteem plays a big role in how you respond to everything in your life; especially when it comes to love and relationships. Don’t be the last to know.

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