Dating Question: Why Did You Break Up With Your Ex?

Dating Question: Why Did You Break Up With Your Ex?

What do you talk about on those first few dates? Is it OK to ask them about their last relationship and why they broke up with their EX? What if that is all they talk about???

I have received this question on my advice column numerous times! What is the proper etiquette when trying to get to know someone? First of all, leave the long checklist at home and let them talk openly without feeling pressured.

This is the time to pay attention to ANY red flags! Are they are ready for a relationship and are they really over their EX?

OK What Should I Be Paying Attention to?

  • How much do they talk about their EX?
  • Are they angry about their past relationship?
  • Are they still sad about the breakup?
  • Are they truly over their EX and talk about being ready for a partnership?
  • Do you feel like you are the rebound person?
  • Is the conversation forced or does it feel easy and natural? Is it reciprocated?
  • How long has it been since their breakup?
  • Do they not want to talk about anything in their past and seem emotionally closed off?
  • Do they still see their Ex as friends and talk about them a lot?
  • Are they talking about their ex but jumping in really fast with you at the same time?

Listen to your intuition! You know in your gut whether someone is being authentic or not.

There are always warning signs but many of us choose to let them slide because we try to give people the benefit of the doubt, or because we desperately want to be in a relationship!

There is a big difference between being too judgmental and being naive about someone!

Really listen to what someone says as you are getting to know them. If they say they’re not ready to be in a relationship, believe them! If they talk constantly about their EX they are NOT over them or available to start anything new with you or anyone else.

Always respect yourself and have some boundaries. Instinctively you know when things are going in the right direction so you shouldn’t have to second guess the situation.

If things are meant to be between the two of you, it will have a natural flow without having to sacrifice yourself in any capacity.

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Advice: Don’t Ignore The Red Flags on the First Few Dates

“Be aware of the red flags & maintain some boundaries when you are dating!”

Famous last words right??

It is not easy today in the world of relationships, dating and rarely meeting someone in a face to face scenario. Everyone is behind their technology screens and hoping & praying that they find someone they can eventually fall in love with.

Unfortunately men & women are frustrated and some people are becoming desperate enough to let some of their core values fall to the basement of their priorities! This is not a good thing and even if it gets them a few months in a relationship, they are not being true to themselves and short changing their future happiness.

Being too picky is not a good thing but overlooking key principals that are important to you, are just as bad if you want a relationship of substance.

Finding love is definitely a lot of work, but well worth the investment when it happens. Don’t settle just because you are lonely, or feeling pressure from your friends, family or your age. It’s your life, nobody elses and you can take all the time in the world to get it right.

There is no time clock unless you allow one to be there.

Many people think that they are taking the easy road by accepting only a small piece of what they want in a partner. Sadly it becomes a burden because everyday you see the sacrifice you made.

The red flags are waving in your face to get your attention and if you choose to ignore them and be OK in a fictitious relationship, you will always been yearning for what could have been.

No one is perfect and no one is telling you to look for perfection so don’t overlook the qualities that are important to you.

We all have different morals & standards but our character should never be compromised to the point in where we lose a big part of ourselves just to be with someone else.

A life partner should be an extension of who you are; not the other way around.

Susan McCord @ The Dear Sybersue Relationship Talk Show   Dear Sybersue Facebook