Vegas Shooting – I am so Sad and Devastated with How Much Hate There is in Our World!

Vegas Shooting – I am so Sad and Devastated with How Much Hate There is in Our World!

Last night I had a terrorizing nightmare that I was running in a big crowd screaming and trying to get away from someone. It spooked me so badly that I couldn’t go back to sleep after I woke from it.

This morning I hear the tragic news regarding the mass shooting in Las Vegas and cannot shake this internal sickness I feel. What is wrong in our beautiful world? Why is there so much hatred and anger towards others?

Why are some of our powerful leaders threatening each other through social media and not setting an example of kindness for people everywhere? How is this allowed to continue so that it creates followers and even more controversy among two different ways of thinking?

Why do I feel like I am back in elementary school with how this is being handled?

Why are the weather patterns destroying so many cities and leaving thousands of people homeless and devastated? Is the great power above trying to tell us something? Are we literally killing our planet due to global warming and negative or racist attitudes?

I am not religious but I am definitely a spiritual person and practice being kind to others on a daily basis. I have always believed in the goodness of human beings but I am quickly becoming discouraged by the horror that one person can orchestrate such a horrific act as this.

Help me to understand how a mind can even work this way? How can someone justify that there is any validity to their premeditated plan of killing innocent people?

What is wrong with us that we can’t stop this fucking madness? We all have blood running through our veins but we can’t seem to open our eyes and see that we are “all one” as human beings! 

We ALL have to do something every single day to change this “divide and conquer” attitude that is happening in so many countries around the world!

We need to wake up and come together more than ever right now. It shouldn’t take a devastating catastrophe to bring us closer and act humane towards each other. It should be “a given” because we are grateful to be a part of this beautiful planet that we are so blessed to experience.

I am heart broken today but I will continue to do my part in being a good person and helping others as much as I possibly can. I will always remain compassionate and I will not stop trying to make a difference in this world.

Yes, I could stay silent and not draw attention to this madman and his obvious need for power, but I won’t. We need to talk about change and uniting as a nation, not bury our heads in the sand. Someone is trying to tell us something and it is about time we listened!

We literally need to make love and stop with all this war against others. ❤

Susan McCord @ TheDear Sybersue Talk Show

 

The Do’s and Don’ts of Daily Human Etiquette~“Be Kind to One Another!”

The Do’s and Don’ts of Daily Human Etiquette~“Be Kind to One Another!”

"What The World Needs Now is Love"

“What The World Needs Now is Love”

The Do’s and Don’ts of Daily Human Etiquette ~ “Be Kind to One Another!”

Talk Show Host Ellen DeGeneres has a tag line she repeats at the end of every show; “Be Kind to one Another.” It is a simple yet important statement from this popular celebrity because we ALL need to think about our actions toward others who we come in contact with on a daily basis. Ellen has the incredible power to reach millions of people and to share important messages for them to think about. She also shows an incredible compassion for many people and organizations who are less fortunate and often helps them out on her show.  Is Ellen making a difference in her quest for kindness in the world and can one person really make an impact on people’s attitude?

Absolutely they can!

Ellen uses comedy and compassion in much of her show content which allows people to be comforted and relaxed for that one hour a day. Can you imagine how much better the world would be if we all thought and acted just a little bit more like her?

The simple human behaviors are dwindling away and we are becoming a much more self absorbed society with less regard for others around us. This has to change and we can start to do this by changing the little things we have all forgotten about. The computer age has made us retreat from “face to face” connections and we all need to remember how to interact to each other with kindness.

I want to end this post on a positive note so I will start with The Etiquette Don’ts first:

  1. Be aware of who is around you and respect their space! This should be a given but it is amazing how many people do not look behind them when they attend an event or any outing at all.  They stand in front of someone who was there before them or barge into lineups. Wait your turn!
  2. Driving your car: Do not turn left at the last minute; do not drive in the fast lane at a slow pace; don’t pick your nose while driving ~ sorry I had to say this; don’t tail gate other drivers due to road rage and do not pull past the stop sign so your car is hanging out in oncoming traffic! Let people merge in once in awhile, don’t speed up so they can’t get in.
  3. Dog Owners: Do not tie your dog up outside ANY establishment and let them bark. There is no need for a dog to bark continuously if they are trained properly. That said, get them trained. Pick up your dog’s poop! If your dog is unpredictable put a muzzle on them in public as a protection for other dogs they come in contact with. Do not leave them shut in condos or houses barking all day. Get a dog walker or bark collar. Your neighbours shouldn’t have to listen to it. Your dog is in distress so do something about it as a good owner should.
  4. Help someone who is trying to get through a door with their hands full. Who ever gets to the door first; hold it for the person behind you! I cannot tell you how many young kids today don’t even look behind them.
  5. Manners need to be addressed: Reply to any invite you receive! Don’t be late for anything without proper notice to who you are meeting; Do not bail on people at the last minute leaving them hanging; it’s not all about you. Never go to someone’s house for dinner or party empty handed. Follow up every invite with a thank you email or phone call. Don’t say you will attend something and then not show up ~ this includes a wedding! It is shocking how many people do this!
  6. Pedestrians: Cars are bigger than you! They have the right away. Follow the walk signs and do not start walking when it says not to. This blocks traffic and causes jams because the cars can’t get through.
  7. Don’t take up space for 2 or more people when in a confined area like a sauna, yoga studio, movie theater or a crowded coffee shop. Sitting at a table for 6 when you are alone is selfish. Invite others to sit with you if that is the only spot left.
  8. Don’t be one of those neighbors! Be friendly and careful about noise levels of stereos, kids or pets on balconies/backyards too early in the morning or loudly talking late night in the hallways of condos or hotels. If you’re planning a party let them know ahead of time and maybe invite them to attend it.
  9. Don’t expect your colleagues to work harder than you for the same salary. Calling in sick or being late on a regular basis puts more stress on everyone at the office.
  10. Don’t take your friends, family or loved ones for granted! Nurture these special relationships on a daily basis.

The Do’s of Daily Human Etiquette:

  1. Smile and say hi to people you pass on the street, that you sit near at a restaurant or at any event you attend.
  2. Be happy for people who achieve their goals or milestones and acknowledge them. Being around others who are ambitious and positive is contagious!
  3. Do or say something nice to someone everyday! It not only makes them feel good it makes you feel good to see them smile and appreciate your gesture.
  4. Help people feel comfortable when they are new to a situation.
  5. Be aware of people with special needs. Smile, make eye contact with them and help them if you can see they need assistance.
  6. Don’t be afraid to speak up and protect someone who is being treated badly by another person. The same thing applies if you feel you are being disrespected. We can all be teachers in the simplest ways. Use a diplomatic approach and make them think about what they did.
  7. Spare some time to be of service to a charity or group environment that needs help. Paying it forward is a wonderful thing. Get others involved by making them aware of how rewarding it is.
  8. Always remember where you came from regardless of how successful you are. Treat people well and never forget that life throws curveballs to everyone. We all need a mentor or someone who believes in us and gives us a chance.
  9. Literally respect your elders! They are not invisible and should never be treated as so. Older generations paved the way for our freedom so always be thankful for their sacrifices. Take the time to talk to seniors whenever possible. Some of them do not have family and many of their friends have passed on. They can be very lonely.
  10. Everyone has insecurities so rather than be jealous of someone who you think who has everything, be aware that they also have “stuff’ that isn’t perfect. Assumptions are dangerous and keep a person in a narrow minded place. Being positive and taking yourself out of negative scenarios will keep you focused on the good things life has to offer.

“Treat each other how you want to be treated” is an old and very wise cliché that needs to be practised on a regular basis. We are forgetting how to be supportive to others and spending too much time worrying about our own survival. The world is changing and the need for power in certain Countries is very overwhelming. We all need to fight back even in the smallest ways, to keep humanity in a respectable place. If everyone puts in a little effort every day we can change the attitude of people around the world but we need everyone to do their part. Don’t ignore it; be proactive and make a difference.

As the song says: What the World Needs Now is Love

1965 popular song with lyrics by Hal David and music composed by Burt Bacharach

“What the world needs now is love, sweet love. It’s the only thing that there’s just too little of. What the world needs now is love, sweet love…No not just for some but for everyone!”

Susan McCord @ Dear Sybersue Talk Show

Make Love not War!  (Stop Fighting and be Thankful for the Gift of Life.)

Make Love not War! (Stop Fighting and be Thankful for the Gift of Life.)

Make Love not War!

Make Love not War!

This is not usually the topic I would write for my blog as I prefer it to be lighthearted and upbeat but some things just need to be addressed.

Much of the world today reacts to their neighbors actions. There is so much war due to the defensive reactions each Country or Nation plays. Rather than respecting each others cultures, it causes continual turmoil.  Some Countries or Religions are more demanding than others and expect to be adhered to on every level, while others are just trying to live in a peaceful and loving existence. Why is there so much destruction; emotionally and physically?  Why does it take a natural disaster to bring people together? We should be practicing this on a regular basis & learn how to love & respect each other unconditionally, not allowing a few power hungry leaders to corrupt our beautiful planet!

It is wonderful to see some people trying to change this “struggle for power” & that spiritually is playing a much larger role than ever before. “The Law of Attraction” is a regular practice for many people because they want to believe in themselves which in turn will keep them open & positive to believe in others as well. We can only hope this boomerang effect eventually helps our world to accept and love each other without all this fighting!

Behavior breeds behavior. 

Life is so much easier if you react to negativity with a positive opposition. It throws a curve ball that the other person isn’t expecting. It defuses the escalation of an angry reaction if handled properly. If you sound patronizing and dismissive, it will heighten their aggression even more. Be careful by being aware of your own body language and initial reaction in the beginning.

In everyday life and dealing with an angry customer or client in many job environments, most of us instantly get our backs up. It automatically brings a defensive response and makes people feel disrespected. Letting them have their say, is what most people really want. They need validity that their point is being heard. It doesn’t mean they are right but by reacting as negative as they are, just adds fuel to the fire.  Feeling their pain for a moment will alleviate further anger, and hearing them out is usually a calming behavior modifier which could lead to a compromised solution.

Everyone deals with something difficult in their lifetime & everyone has a story. We don’t know what that is & being compassionate for a few minutes can change them in ways we may not be aware of. One person can make a difference in another person’s life by one simple remark or compliment. Think back to a comment that has stayed with you since childhood, did it not touch your life for more than a brief moment?

Behavior patterns are quite interesting in all realms of life. A child emulates their parents or siblings. Spouses who have been married for a long time start to act and sound alike. Animals respond to negative & positive feedback whether it due to an affectionate tummy rub or a scolding. (Most people yawn when someone near them yawns & the same thing happens when someone smiles at them.) It is contagious or a mirrored behavior. This can be a negative or positive scenario depending on how each individual deals with it.

Behavior can also be used as a manipulative tool. If you know someone’s personality and what buttons to push for your benefit, you are “using” their behavioral actions. This is how con artists pounce on their prey, by reading their behavioral patterns. Cult leaders and Extremists have learned the way to manipulate people through behavioral brainwashing. Their followers look at it as mentoring which couldn’t be further from the truth. Being aware & working on your self esteem will keep you from being lured into these situations.

When entering into a stressful group situation (whether it is a family scenario, work or political related issue) there needs to be a leader who is calm and rational to bring the same behavior out of the other people in the room. But not all leaders are problem solvers and can be aggravators instead.  Think about a playground in your neighborhood or your childhood. The bully always has a group of disciples. They are too young to know the right way to use their own judgment. They want to be accepted no matter what, and are looking for direction in any form. These children lack self esteem and need love & guidance to remove them from future negativity. Thank goodness that so many people are now addressing bullying and it is becoming acknowledged worldwide with many celebrities & education establishments discussing the topic. Something is being done about it & people are caring more about each other.

There is always hope ❤

Learning how to read people quickly will help you put in less time with negative friendships or relationships. You don’t have to subject yourself to it on a regular basis; just try not to react in the same negative matter when you are in their presence. Being around people who are always down about life can eventually take its toll on your friendship or relationship. By learning to read body language and behaviors, you will understand who the people in your life really are.

Try not to think or talk negative and believe your positive actions will help to rectify a situation. Use your skills to massage the best out of people. We ALL hunger for positive re-enforcement; and truly don’t want to be negative. If everyone of us makes an effort to bring kindness back into our world, maybe one day love will overshadow war and these controlling leaders in need of power will become obsolete. I know…wishful thinking… but I am always hopeful that we will finally understand how precious our time is here on earth. We need to stop wasting it with anger and resentment and care a little more about the generations to come. It’s not all about us!

One person can make a difference, why can’t it be you?

Susan McCord @ http://www.youtube.com/c/susanmccord