Relationships: We’ll Get Married When…

Relationships: We’ll Get Married When…

Dear Sybersue,

I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend Daniel for 3 1/2 years and we have been engaged for 2 years.  He proposed to me with a very simple gold band but he has promised me there will be a bigger and better wedding ring the day we walk down the aisle together.

I am 33 years old and Daniel is 36.  We have very few discussions regarding any marriage plans and no actual date has been set on the calendar for the wedding ceremony. We have talked about having children but everything seems to be in a holding pattern since we got engaged. I am ready to be a mom but it is important for me to be married first!

Do you think I am fooling myself waiting around for him to go through with us ever getting married? Is this band on my finger basically a promise ring and nothing else? He is continually saying how stressed he is with work and finances etc. but I personally think it is an excuse so I won’t bring up any wedding talk! Continue reading