Breakup Advice: Should You Get Rid of All Reminders of Your Ex?

Breakup Advice: Should You Get Rid of All Reminders of Your Ex?

Dear Sybersue’s weekly Wednesday video upload is a discussion on breakups and what you should keep from your past relationship.

Do you get rid of everything to do with your Ex or is it important to keep something to remind yourself of why you once loved them? Regardless of the way the relationship ended they were a part of your life for a reason; no matter how small of a reason that might have been.

We are personally in charge of who attract into our life, so whether you understand why at the time or figure it out at a later date, there is always a purpose or lesson to be learned with each person who walks on your path.

I am certainly not saying they are all happy lessons, but you needed to know something at that particular time to help you move into being an even better version of yourself! Acknowledging this will keep you centered and take you further up the ladder to your highest good.

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Should You Give Back the Ring After a Broken Engagement?

Should You Give Back the Ring After a Broken Engagement?

In The Video Above Dear Sybersue discusses how to deal with “the ring” situation after an engagement ends!

Do you keep the engagement ring out of spite because your fiance blindsided you with this breakup out of nowhere? Do you sell it? Do you tearfully give it back to your Ex-fiance? Angrily throw it in his face?

Is it a really good thing to hold onto it? Why would you want to look at it and keep reminding yourself of the marriage that never took place? 

If you believe in karma it may not be the best idea to keep the ring just to get back at your Ex for bailing on your partnership.  Maybe the universe was looking out for you and you dodged 10-20 years of an unhappy relationship?

It is never easy when someone walks away from the future you had planned together and the heartbreak can last a long time. This is why it is important to remove the memories that cause the pain. This includes, photos, social media ties, (yes, that means not creeping him out on facebook) and the engagement ring.

When Would It Be OK to Keep the Ring?

  1. If you have been engaged for more than a few years. If you have been wearing this ring for a long time then it is really yours to keep or sell, depending on how the breakup takes place. If it is a mutual decision then you may be OK with wearing the ring on your other hand. You can always make a nice necklace or earrings out of it too! 😉 wink wink.
  2. Your Ex-fiance strongly expresses he doesn’t want the ring back!
  3. Your Ex cowardly disappears after breaking off the engagement and you are not in contact with him.

Has this happened to you and how did you handle it? Sybersue Loves to hear from her viewers & always responds back!

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Are You Sure You’re Ready to Be in a Relationship?

Are You Sure You’re Ready to Be in a Relationship?

In the video above Dear Sybersue discusses a relationship subject that many people have questioned themselves about at some point in their life.

Are you sure you are ready to be in a relationship?

Here are 10 Things to Think About When Asking Yourself This Question:

  1. Is your partner a big priority in your life?
  2. Are you ready to nurture this commitment or are you too busy to give them what they need from your heart?
  3. Do they fill a void that makes you feel more alive when you are with them?
  4. Are they in your thoughts regularly throughout the day?
  5. Do you smile when you think about them?
  6. Do you know the difference between lust and love?
  7. Are you still sexually attracted to other people and just can’t stop being a flirt?
  8. Do you really miss them when you are not with them?
  9. Do you get excited about a future with them and all the things you can share together?
  10. Are you on the same page with most things in life?
  • Children
  • Marriage
  • Family values
  • Financial goals
  • Your careers?

There aren’t a lot of  haunting doubts or difficult questions when you are ready to share your life with someone. It just feels great and there is a reciprocated  love and respect for each other.

Don’t waste someone’s time if you are just looking for a part time romance. It’s not fair to them.

Stay single until you are ready to give someone your unconditional love and support. It’s OK not to be in a relationship!

Take time to work on yourself and be comfortable with who you are as a person; everything else will flow in the right direction.

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Sex in the Work Place!

Sex in the Work Place!

Why is there still so much sex going on in the office? Is it due to the temptation of that sexy piece of forbidden fruit you see everyday when you are at work?

Gone are the days of the 25 year careers and today it is even more important to act professionally than ever before. Competition is fierce out in the work place so why would you want to jeopardize it for a sexual fling in the stock room or at the company Christmas party?

Dating a colleague that you met at work can be acceptable if there are no rules against it at your place of employment but having a casual sexual affair is never a good idea! More often than not both people involved in an “office liaison” are married, or at least one of them is!

You both think you are being so discreet when most of the office is totally aware of your activities! Body language is easy to read when there is lust involved!!

  • Are you doing this because things at home are not going well?
  • Are you looking for a promotion?
  • Another notch on the bedpost?
  • You like the excitement of trying not to get caught.
  • Or is your self esteem tarnished and any attention is good attention?

These lustful scenarios usually end up as a one sided love affair with one person becoming very involved and you need to pay close attention to where this rendezvous situation is headed!

Make sure you are willing to sacrifice a lot of things in your life if you choose to walk down this path because 9 times out of 10 it usually doesn’t end well.

Susan McCord @ The Dear Sybersue Talk Show