My Ex Keeps Texting and Wants to See me Before He gets Married!

My Ex Keeps Texting and Wants to See me Before He gets Married!

Dear Sybersue Answers a Viewers Question:

Dear Sybersue,

After two long years of trying to get over my ex and then dealing with his engagement to a woman 8 months ago, he has recently started contacting me again. I was crushed when I heard he had met someone a year ago and was getting married so quickly after only knowing her for 4 months!

NOW my Ex keeps texting me and wants to see me before he gets married!

Why is he doing that when he is supposedly committed to another woman? His texts are very flirty and somewhat sexually suggestive.

It took me so long to get over him and now he is stirring things up emotionally for me.

How do I handle this?

MK

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My 35 Year Old Boyfriend Parties Constantly! Will he Ever Grow up?

My 35 Year Old Boyfriend Parties Constantly! Will he Ever Grow up?

Dear Sybersue answers Christian’s question:

Dear Sybersue,

My 35 year old boyfriend parties constantly!  We have been together for 2 years and it’s always been one big non-stop booze fest. He either has the guys over 4 nights a week, goes to their houses or we have to attend another party somewhere for someone’s birthday or an event that seems to happen for any basic occasion.

I am 33 years old and ready to start planning my future in a responsible way.

I am so tired of all the booze fed evenings that resemble the reality TV show Vanderpump Rules! There is an endless amount of  shooters that always end in a drama filled late night!

The next day involves a major hang over, infused with one Hell of a lot of memory loss and eating junk food until the same type of evening starts all over again

My boyfriend knows how much this bothers me but he always says that “We only live once and we are still young and should enjoy it now.” “We can save money later!”

To avoid another argument with him, I have started to make excuses why I can’t attend these drunken nights anymore but it is difficult because I really do love him. He thinks I am being way too serious and that we have plenty of time to be responsible.

We both have great jobs that we love, but how long is he going to be able to hold on to his when he shows up at work smelling like a tequila shooter or brewery? He has started to call in sick more often and shows up late constantly because he’s so tired from partying until 2 am on a weeknight!

Writing all this down I can see how bad things have become in our relationship and I know what I probably should do.  Is there any hope for us at all?

What would you do Sybersue?

Christian P.

Dear Christian,

Well you are right that it sounds like a Vanderpump Rules episode! I can see why you are so frustrated because it seems to be the normal way of life for so many people in their 20’s and 30’s today!

I have no idea why they would be allowed to glorify these drunk fests on a TV show! Ratings I guess…

Glorified or not, it’s not OK to party this much and still have a healthy lifestyle or LIVER! 

You are right about the drama that arises from these evenings as the excessive alcohol brings out the clawed cat in many of us. The more someone drinks the more they can handle, which then turns into an addiction that needs to be fed.

Let’s not forget to mention how much money is spent on these nights out! I am always hearing how millennials complain they will never own a house and they’ve got that right!  If their priorities are in party mode,  we know how much bottle service and fancy restaurants cost!

It is not unusual for many young people to have $300+ nights every time they step out for the evening. How could you possibly save any money for a house?

You are right to be concerned about your future with him Christian because at 35 years old he should already have been putting money away as an investment. You said you love him but are you sure it’s enough? It doesn’t sound like you do much together except go to expensive social events, so how will that help your relationship grow in the future?

You need to have the big talk with him and not just pull away doing your own thing while he continues on this destructive path. It’s time to put on those big girl panties and do what’s right for you. Tell him what is important to you and if he is willing to change things up and prioritize his future with you and his finances, then maybe you can salvage your partnership.

If he can’t compromise in the next month with his partying ways then you will have no choice but to move on in a different direction.

You can’t make someone change, but you can offer a solution that could help him see that what he is doing is a dead end scenario. It’s up to him how he handles it and to show you how important you are to him.

You have invested 2 years into this relationship and that is enough time to see if there is a healthy future with him. If he is doesn’t want to alter his present lifestyle and is happy  with the life he is living, then you know there isn’t room in his heart to give you what you want anymore.  His priorities aren’t you.

Sybersue ❤

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Are You Always Afraid Your Relationships Will End?

Are You Always Afraid Your Relationships Will End?

In the video above Dear Sybersue discusses “Are You Always Afraid Your Relationships Will End?”

Are you fearful of being in a relationship because you don’t think it will last? Is this becoming a problem due to trust issues from a difficult childhood or a past breakup that has left you feeling uneasy or insecure about relationships in general?

We’re not all built the same way emotionally and we are all a work in progress fumbling along until we get things right in our life.

Some of us learn quickly because we have loving support or mentors to help us figure things out, while others have to take the long way around trying to find the tools to guide them to the right path.

When it comes to matters of the heart  we all have vulnerable moments and even the strongest men and women feel those scars that seem to linger longer than necessary! Why is love so difficult sometimes?

Love is the universal language that everyone understands but many people don’t deal with their emotions correctly. They either bury their feelings, become possessive or react harshly when hurt and are quite confused about what love actually means to them. This causes all types of self doubt and insecurities as the years go by.

It is important after each partnership ends to take time to analyse what transpired.  

It’s OK to talk to someone professionally about what you’re feeling and what has taken hold of your emotional fears. In fact it is a great thing to do for yourself and can save you many years of heartbreak! Relationships are powerful and when they end it is another life experience that either holds you back, or helps you grow.

It is up to you which one that is; you are in charge. 

If you are feeling anxious in most of your partnerships, it is time to figure out why. It could be that you are choosing a similar type and repeating a pattern that doesn’t work.  Just because it feels familiar doesn’t mean that it is a good thing.

We ALL need a self esteem need boost at certain times and no one escapes that in a lifetime. Something needs to change so that you don’t subconsciously keep sabotaging relationship after relationship by choosing people who aren’t a good fit for you.

You should always feel safe and loved when you are with the right partner. 

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Sybersue xo ❤

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Breakup Advice: Should You Get Rid of All Reminders of Your Ex?

Breakup Advice: Should You Get Rid of All Reminders of Your Ex?

Dear Sybersue’s weekly Wednesday video upload is a discussion on breakups and what you should keep from your past relationship.

Do you get rid of everything to do with your Ex or is it important to keep something to remind yourself of why you once loved them? Regardless of the way the relationship ended they were a part of your life for a reason; no matter how small of a reason that might have been.

We are personally in charge of who attract into our life, so whether you understand why at the time or figure it out at a later date, there is always a purpose or lesson to be learned with each person who walks on your path.

I am certainly not saying they are all happy lessons, but you needed to know something at that particular time to help you move into being an even better version of yourself! Acknowledging this will keep you centered and take you further up the ladder to your highest good.

Sybersue Loves to hear from you & will answer you back. Please watch the video above and leave your comments below or show topic ideas below this post.

Thank you ❤ sybersue

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Should You Give Back the Ring After a Broken Engagement?

Should You Give Back the Ring After a Broken Engagement?

In The Video Above Dear Sybersue discusses how to deal with “the ring” situation after an engagement ends!

Do you keep the engagement ring out of spite because your fiance blindsided you with this breakup out of nowhere? Do you sell it? Do you tearfully give it back to your Ex-fiance? Angrily throw it in his face?

Is it a really good thing to hold onto it? Why would you want to look at it and keep reminding yourself of the marriage that never took place? 

If you believe in karma it may not be the best idea to keep the ring just to get back at your Ex for bailing on your partnership.  Maybe the universe was looking out for you and you dodged 10-20 years of an unhappy relationship?

It is never easy when someone walks away from the future you had planned together and the heartbreak can last a long time. This is why it is important to remove the memories that cause the pain. This includes, photos, social media ties, (yes, that means not creeping him out on facebook) and the engagement ring.

When Would It Be OK to Keep the Ring?

  1. If you have been engaged for more than a few years. If you have been wearing this ring for a long time then it is really yours to keep or sell, depending on how the breakup takes place. If it is a mutual decision then you may be OK with wearing the ring on your other hand. You can always make a nice necklace or earrings out of it too! 😉 wink wink.
  2. Your Ex-fiance strongly expresses he doesn’t want the ring back!
  3. Your Ex cowardly disappears after breaking off the engagement and you are not in contact with him.

Has this happened to you and how did you handle it? Sybersue Loves to hear from her viewers & always responds back!

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Are You Sure You’re Ready to Be in a Relationship?

Are You Sure You’re Ready to Be in a Relationship?

In the video above Dear Sybersue discusses a relationship subject that many people have questioned themselves about at some point in their life.

Are you sure you are ready to be in a relationship?

Here are 10 Things to Think About When Asking Yourself This Question:

  1. Is your partner a big priority in your life?
  2. Are you ready to nurture this commitment or are you too busy to give them what they need from your heart?
  3. Do they fill a void that makes you feel more alive when you are with them?
  4. Are they in your thoughts regularly throughout the day?
  5. Do you smile when you think about them?
  6. Do you know the difference between lust and love?
  7. Are you still sexually attracted to other people and just can’t stop being a flirt?
  8. Do you really miss them when you are not with them?
  9. Do you get excited about a future with them and all the things you can share together?
  10. Are you on the same page with most things in life?
  • Children
  • Marriage
  • Family values
  • Financial goals
  • Your careers?

There aren’t a lot of  haunting doubts or difficult questions when you are ready to share your life with someone. It just feels great and there is a reciprocated  love and respect for each other.

Don’t waste someone’s time if you are just looking for a part time romance. It’s not fair to them.

Stay single until you are ready to give someone your unconditional love and support. It’s OK not to be in a relationship!

Take time to work on yourself and be comfortable with who you are as a person; everything else will flow in the right direction.

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Sex in the Work Place!

Sex in the Work Place!

Why is there still so much sex going on in the office? Is it due to the temptation of that sexy piece of forbidden fruit you see everyday when you are at work?

Gone are the days of the 25 year careers and today it is even more important to act professionally than ever before. Competition is fierce out in the work place so why would you want to jeopardize it for a sexual fling in the stock room or at the company Christmas party?

Dating a colleague that you met at work can be acceptable if there are no rules against it at your place of employment but having a casual sexual affair is never a good idea! More often than not both people involved in an “office liaison” are married, or at least one of them is!

You both think you are being so discreet when most of the office is totally aware of your activities! Body language is easy to read when there is lust involved!!

  • Are you doing this because things at home are not going well?
  • Are you looking for a promotion?
  • Another notch on the bedpost?
  • You like the excitement of trying not to get caught.
  • Or is your self esteem tarnished and any attention is good attention?

These lustful scenarios usually end up as a one sided love affair with one person becoming very involved and you need to pay close attention to where this rendezvous situation is headed!

Make sure you are willing to sacrifice a lot of things in your life if you choose to walk down this path because 9 times out of 10 it usually doesn’t end well.

Susan McCord @ The Dear Sybersue Talk Show