How do you explain to your ex that you cannot be friends while they date the person they cheated on you with? (Original post on Quora)
I noticed how you said “while” they date the person they cheated on you with. Why would you want to be friends with a man that has no respect for you, whether he is with this woman or not? We all get that forgiveness is a part of healing, but it doesn’t mean you have to be friends or keep him in your life after he blatantly cheated on you.
He wants to be friends with you because it helps him relieve his guilt but that has nothing to do with your feelings, it’s about him. He also may be keeping you in the background in case he wants to rekindle something later on or keep the new girl feeling insecure.
Hurtful relationships are the stepping stones to a better place, but first you have to learn the lessons as to why you were with someone.
- What did you learn about your time with them?
- Was there something about yourself that needed to be woken up?
- What attracted you towards him in the beginning?
- Are you drawn to bad boys?
- Were you shown love as a child?
- Do you base a relationship primarily on how much sexual chemistry you have with them?
- Was he with someone else when you met him?
The red flags are usually right in front of us early on in a relationship but many people choose to ignore them. He did you a favor by showing you his true colors and the more often you remove yourself from people who hurt you or use you, the sooner you will meet the people who should be in your life.
Oh and by the way… you do not have to explain anything to him. His actions towards you said it all.
Give your energy & love to people who appreciate you. <3
I did this video a short time ago that you may want to see about relationships.
“Love Gone Wrong Could be Something you Needed to Learn about Yourself”