Hi Sybersue,
I know this email is not going to be pleasant but then I don’t feel like sugar coating my feelings right now!
I am angry and so fed up with fake women! I am starting to dislike the entire female population! What gives them the right to treat men like sh*t and then just walk away when they have used you for whatever they can get out of you?
I am a decent looking guy who makes a good living, but the women I meet are all takers & only into money or status! I meet women online and in social settings and I can honestly lump them all into the same category regardless of the environment.
I know I vented on your YouTube channel about this and I apologize for being a hot head but I just can’t take the BS women are handing out to men these days. I am not the only one who feels this way & it is a regular conversation with my buddies as well.
What the Hell is going on & why have women changed so much? I just want to meet a woman who knows how to put her man first and appreciate who he is without so much judgement or expectations.
Thanks Sue
Brad85
Dear Brad85,
Hi Brad! OK since you decided to be blunt here on my advice column & my YouTube Channel I will give you the same courtesy.
Your anger is repelling the “amazing women” away from you and bringing you more of what you don’t want in your life because of it. You are repeating a pattern rather than learning from something that isn’t working for you.
Why do you think it should be so easy to meet someone to share your life with?
We usually marry only once in our lifetime so the odds of going through some undesirable dating, is pretty normal I would say. The trick here though Brad; is not to repeat spending time with the same type of women. There is something that you are doing to attract these “money hungry user” girls into your existence.
You say women have changed but maybe it is you who needs to change as well.
Haven’t you noticed when you write angry things on YouTube that you get more angry comments in return? Whether they are against you or for you, the comments are still in the anger mode.
Well… that is what you are also projecting in “face to face” social settings. It is like you are looking for these demanding women to prove your point.
You said you don’t like judgmental women so don’t lump all women into the judgmental “same category!” Try dating someone completely different from your usual selection; because I will bet you have a predetermined female type that you are not even aware of.
BOTH men and women have changed over the years and it is up to us individually, who we allow into our lives.
You must be a pro at seeing the “high maintenance red flags” so move on quickly when you see them. Read between the lines on dating profiles and look closely at their photos. The old cliché “pictures are worth a thousand words” is very true in the Millennium! (15 sexy selfies would be your first clue.)
It sounds like you want love in your life or you wouldn’t have written me in frustration, so in order for it to come to you; your mindset has to change to believe you can have it.
Women will not use you if you don’t let them use you.
Stop sabotaging things and try to have a positive outlook towards women. Lose the attitude that all women are the same; because I can assure you they are not! The minute you start understanding that is when the right one will be drawn towards you.
Think about it; would you be attracted to a woman who is angry?
Try these 5 Things to Help Change Up Your Love Life:
- Watch your body language. Be Open & Friendly.
- Watch what you say and do all the time! Be aware of how you come across.
- Stop putting out any negative thoughts.
- Broaden your friendship circle with positive people only.
- Know that you are a great guy worthy of a loving partnership.
The less time you spend saying how things aren’t working, the more things will start to work and come together for you in the future. It’s not working for you this way so why not try a different approach? It really is a much happier place to be.
Keep me posted & let me know how things are going. I think you will be writing me back soon with some good news!
Sybersue <3
What do you think about Brad’s comments? What other suggestions would you have for him?
Susan McCord @ The Dear Sybersue Talk Show
