I recently decided to add another playlist to my YouTube channel for single parents. I seldom discuss my dealings regarding my own single mom days as I tried to leave my personal issues out of many of my videos for the most part.
I have since changed up that thinking as I believe that life experiences should be shared, so that others can also learn from them. I have received numerous questions on my advice column and my YouTube channel from single parents who feel alone and need non-judgmental advice and compassion with what they are having to dealing with.
Being a single parent is difficult especially when you may not have the support of your Ex.
My story began when my son was 18 months old and my marriage started a slow downhill crumble. There were career problems with my husband at the time and it became a self-esteem issue that started tearing away at him; which changed things between us as a young couple.
We probably weren’t mature enough to deal with it all and it finally took it’s toll on our partnership. I take responsibility for my part in it, as it takes two people to make a relationship work.
I certainly didn’t see myself raising a child alone in my 20’s who was still in diapers at the time! How did I get here???? Most of my friends were enjoying their young single party life and I was on a completely different journey!
It was an interesting & difficult place to be but I learned so much during those years! My son was actually the first person who taught me what unconditional love is. I wasn’t shown that in my family upbringing and was overwhelmed with the love I felt for this little boy.
How did I go so long without it? I guess it’s hard to miss what you never really had right?
Well you know the old saying “what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger” and I’m still alive, so I guess I AM stronger! You definitely can’t be weak if you want to be a good single mom! You have someone who depends on you to show them the way and guide them through life’s trials and tribulations so you have to be present!
There are many ways to get through single parenting and still have some personal time for yourself as well. Yes, you will shed many frustrating tears and have doubts about your parenting skills, but this happens even with couples who are raising their children together.
Communicate with your child, apologize to them if you have a bad day or lose your temper once in awhile. You don’t have to completely hide your emotions but don’t make them be the parent either. They need to have fun their childhood and they are not your sounding board or your therapist.
Find a support group you can vent with, to help you through the tougher moments. Don’t ever be afraid to ask for help! When you’re happy the kids will be happy too.
Please leave your comments below to help others who are in the same situation!