In today’s weekly video upload I discuss a subject that affects many men and women on a daily basis! “How Do I Stop Hating My Ex Who is Also The Father of My Children?”
It is difficult enough just ending a marriage or long-term partnership but add kids into the mix and it can feel like you never even left your Ex! You have to keep dealing with them and being reminded of what didn’t work out between you as a couple!
How do you move on without anger so that you can enjoy the next part of your life and also keep your children happy?
Children are like sponges and are affected by their parents and siblings actions at an early age. It is so important in the formative years to have a safe and drama-free environment to grow up in.
I still have flashbacks to my early childhood that pop in and out of my consciousness. The smallest things trigger these memories; some good and some not so good. As a parent you are the guide to your child’s happiness, so you need to put your own anger and resentment out of their reach.
As much as you might hate your ex right now, they were a big part in why you have your children and if you hadn’t met them… well, you know the answer that! You allowed your Ex to be a part of your life and you loved them at one point.
I made my own mistakes as a young single mom and it took everything in me to cope with parenting an active toddler, working full time, wage cutbacks and dealing with divorce proceedings. No one said it was easy but the unconditional love I had for my son kept me believing, “it gets better” and “it’s worth it!”
People change and things don’t always work out the way we hope they will. That is a part of life that helps us continually grow into a better and stronger version of ourselves. It is how fast we learn that and how appreciative we are of those lessons, that will lead us to our highest good.
Our children deserve to see us at our very best.
Have you dealt with this scenario? How did you handle it? Please leave your comments below so that you can help others!