I am usually a positive person and not too quick to judge people. I try to give others the benefit of the doubt when things don’t go as smoothly as I might like with certain human interactions. Today is a day when I need to vent and I apologize for not being my usual perky, happy self. Sometimes we just need to talk about things in an assertive way when they bug us.
There one thing that really pisses me off is people who think they are the only thing that matters and that their time is more important than anyone else’s. These are the ones that cancel on you last minute without giving you a reason why. You just receive a matter of fact text “sorry can’t make it.” Or if they do give you an excuse as to why the bailed on you, it is pretty lame for the most part. They just chose another option that worked better for them.
What has happened to us?
Why are there so many people like this in the world today? When did we become so “me” orientated? Where is the kindness and compassion for others who we come in contact with throughout our daily routine?
I am blown away to be honest. I try to stay optimistic and not let it affect me but sometimes I just want to smack some of these people and shake them out of their self absorbed thinking, (especially when it effects people I love!) There is a reason that many businesses charge for last minute cancellations! This is also why airlines “over sell” their flights today. There are so many no-shows.
Unfortunately rudeness is an everyday occurrence that we all have to deal with but are you aware of your own actions?
Do you do any of these things?
- Talk loudly on your phone at the gym near people who are trying to work out? Do you throw your heavy weights with force onto the floor?
- Do you impatiently walk so closely on people’s heals so that they can feel your breath in their ears?
- Do you walk through a door without looking behind you?
- Are you always calling in sick to your job forcing your colleagues to have to work harder to make up for your absence?
- Do you double up your plans on the calendar and then choose the best option when the day comes?
- Are you a line crasher?
- Are you a taker or opportunist? Do you appreciate people’s time they have given to help you and do you reciprocate in some way?
- Do you drive aggressively barging your way in front of another car and then turn left on them a minute later? Do you allow other cars to merge in or pretend you don’t see their signal light?
- Are you always on your phone when you are out for an evening with friends?
I am sad to say that I even see a “sense of entitlement” at the yoga studio I go to regularly; with the people who noisily come in late when the class has already started, making everyone move for them or standing right in front of someone so they can’t see to use the mirror to correct their form. It’s all about them; they don’t even look behind them to see who it might be affecting.
So much for a Zen atmosphere…sigh.
Men and women constantly complain about not being able to meet someone to date. Is this really a surprise when we hardly look up to exchange a smile with someone in our vicinity? Is it a wonder that many people are lonely and spending their weekends with their Netflix partner instead of a romantic partner?
We are all becoming so technology dependent that we are isolating ourselves further and further into an introverted existence.
It’s not too late to change some of this bad behavior and if everyone made a little effort being kind to one another and respecting each others time and space; we could actually start talking “face to face” once again like our grandparents did in the old days.
Be nice to others every day and do not become one of those people I mentioned above that are self absorbed and only think about what is good for them. It is very rewarding to be nice to people and see a smile light up on their faces.
Be aware of who you are and how you come across. If you want fullness in your life you will only achieve it by giving back just as much as you receive.
It’s never too late to be a better person. ❤
Susan McCord @ The Dear Sybersue Talk Show