I laughed out loud when I saw Matthew’s One Direction Parody video on YouTube! Not only did he do a great job lip syncing, he pointed out some valuable information about the lyrics of this popular song and what they really mean. The name of the song; “The Perfect Guy” is not what the video portrays that’s for sure!
The boy band One Direction, is a huge success and just won artist of the year on the AMA (American Music Awards) this week which is why it is important to point out what they are actually saying to millions of young female fans in this song. The message here girls is to REALLY listen to what a guy is saying to you because more often than not, they do tell you what they want and what they don’t want when they first meet you!
Here are the lyrics to The Perfect Guy:
If you hear comments like these listed below, listen to them because this is what a guy wants you to hear:
- I’m not looking for a relationship.
- I’m very busy and don’t have a lot of time to give you right now.
- I just got out of a relationship so I want to date others as well.
- I don’t want kids.
- I don’t ever want to get married.
- I’m a confirmed bachelor.
- I don’t trust women!
- I want to travel and I am not sure where I want to settle yet.
- I’ve got 4 more years of school and that is my priority.
- I’m just looking for a casual hook up.
Contrary to what many heartbroken women say about a guy who breaks up with them for one of these reasons; he did tell you what he wanted in the beginning but you chose to hear it the way you wanted to interpret it. So many women think they can “be the one” to change his mind!
This is a common scenario and a big frustration with men. Ladies; if a man says any of the above comments to you when you first meet him and you are looking for a commitment, walk the other way! Don’t spend time trying to lure him into your charming web if he has already told you he wants to date others, he’s not ready for a commitment or he can only see you sporadically. Move on to someone who is ready and has the same relationship goals that you do.
Timing is everything and so is self respect! Be true to yourself and always listen to what a person is really saying. Don’t twist their words to make it what you want to hear. Put your energy into someone who is ready for love and not into the guy who is still in the outfield playing ball. You will save yourself a Hell of a lot of heartache; I promise you that!
Thank you Matthew Hussey for another great video and reminder to the ladies out there in “Date Land” to pay attention!
Susan McCord at The Dear Sybersue Talk Show